The end of Tattle.Life - and the beginning of justice for hundreds of victims of stalking

As the owner of dangerous stalking website is finally revealed, Dr Jess speaks about what this judgement means for the victims

Friday the 13th came through with a huge win for every victim of every stalker and obsessed poster on the anonymous hate site ‘Tattle.Life’.

After years of being the hub of bullying, doxxing, stalking, harassment, lies, rumours, defamation and threats - victims from all over the world learned on Friday 13th June 2025, that the owners of the site have finally been found, and successfully sued in court by fellow victims, Neil and Donna Sands.

Neil and Donna persisted in their case for three years to discover and then expose the real owner of Tattle, a male influencer called Sebastian Bond. He is also known as ‘Nest and Glow’ - a vegan influencer on Instagram with over 135k followers.

Bond was legally identified by the judge after the High Court of Justice in Northern Ireland granted an application by the Irish couple to lift reporting restrictions and name the defendants in their successful defamation and harassment case against the operator of the bullying and stalking website.

The couple were subjected to years of stalking, defamatory and harassing commentary over a 45-page thread, that was eventually removed in May 2025. They have been awarded over £300k in damages - and including all expenses and costs, Tattle Life now owe over £1.8m in the first successful lawsuit.

But this is just the start.

On Friday night, another high profile victim of the site contacted me to share the news as I sat in my kitchen, and cried reading the judgement. Hundreds of victims - influencers, business owners, models, TV personalities, celebrities, bloggers, musicians, social media stars - all had the same realisation - this is the end of years of abuse and stalking.

I want to talk about this with you all, as in 2022, I was submitted to Tattle Life to be targeted for years, by a group of female professionals working in VAWG and with victims of abuse. They all know who they are and likely will read this. A couple have already apologised. Well, if you can call them ‘apologies’.

Their anonymity is as temporary as Tattle, now.

The site is set up as a huge catalogue of threads or ‘gossip’ forums where anonymous users can submit literally anything they like about you. They can pretend to be your sister. They could be your next door neighbour. They might have never met you. They might watch you on social media. They might be someone you used to work with, or someone you chatted to once in a bar. Maybe they matched with you on Tinder ten years ago, or maybe, they are a total stranger, utterly obsessed with you.

They can pretend you set their car on fire. Or you punched them in a pub in 2014. Or you abused their kids. Or you stole money from them. Or they saw you watching porn. Or you threatened them. Or they watched police raid your house last night. Or you shagged them. Or you scammed them out of thousands of pounds. Literally anything goes. Everyone claims to have evidence to end your career or personal life, and it turns into a frenzy of people akin to piranhas frantically stripping a carcass.

It’s a meeting of minds of people who hate the victim for a range of possible real, exaggerated or totally fabricated reasons, and collectively they spend weeks, months, but very often, years - coming together to abuse, harass, mock, threaten, stalk and obsess over their victims all hours of the day and night. Some victims have been targeted 24 hours a day for many years now.

But this isn’t idle ’gossip’ - and it doesn’t stay on the site, either.

Victims are targeted in ways they could never imagine.

Think mass organised social care complaints, claiming they are a danger to their own kids. Mass complaints to their employers to get them sacked and investigated, using templates they all created to make it faster to cause maximum damage. Organised stalking and harassment, monitoring their every waking moment. Addresses shared. Car reg plates. Schools. Family members names. Kids photos. Driving victims to the brink of suicide, or actual suicide attempts, and then laughing about it, and enjoying watching their victims break down. Accusations that their victims are criminals, committing tax fraud, grooming children, abusing their partners, scamming clients, exploiting strangers, having STDs, cheating on their partners, and everything you can ever think of. Stealing personal photos or data and spreading it on the site to intimidate their victims. Doxxing their victims families and children, naming everything from schools to distant relatives in an attempt to make the victim feel like absolutely nothing in their lives is safe or private anymore.

The users who do all of these things think they are righteous in some way, like their victims deserve everything done to them. Sometimes they claim this is because people in the public eye deserve to be bullied - but sometimes it is personal. Sometimes it is petty, such as people saying that the victim annoys them, or has gotten too big for her boots, or makes too much money, or goes on holiday too much. Sometimes it’s malicious and violent - like the psychotherapist working for a domestic abuse charity who said that she ‘wanted to end that c*nt’ - about me.

It is highly unlikely that any of them would see themselves as stalkers, abusive and obsessive harassers, criminals even - instead, many of them kid themselves into believing that they are doing some sort of public duty by ‘exposing’ victims - despite much of what they write being rumours and lies and their ‘exposés’ are just pages and pages of fabricated abuse about their victims, dressed up to look like meticulous research or facts gained from people posing as family members or insiders.

As I said, I was submitted as a new victim in 2022 - and the impact on me was life changing.

I have never spoken in detail about what happened to me, or who did it, because I have spent years trying to rebuild and reprocess so I could feel healthy and safe again.

I have retained all evidence and will 100% be joining the group action to sue Tattle Life for all damages to me and my family - however, I also feel strongly that this is now a matter for police and government, as one of the barriers police have had to taking action against the users of Tattle Life, is not being able to find the owners of the website, in order to send injunctions and subpoenas for evidence or information.

This barrier no longer exists, which means users can be found, and accounts can finally be unmasked. Prolific stalkers can be investigated and brought to justice. This is why I am working with government, ICO, OFCOM and police to take action against this site. 450 victims have already come forward and talked to me, and I’ve already analysed 115 cases.

At the peak of being stalked and bullied on this site, the women behind it posted endless lies and rumours that were then deliberately sent as links to my colleagues, friends, contacts, employers and commissioners.

The lies and rumours written by the users were absolutely horrific, and every one of my friends and colleagues who watched this happen to me could only look on in utter terror.

I never thought I would actually write about this in any detail, but here goes: