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Rae D'Arcy's avatar

I can't explain what reading this has done for me. 🩷👑

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Sam Dunn's avatar

Not a victim, a survivor. And what survivors we are.

Love the whole letter! My 14yo twins are actually seeing what their dad is all about. He also has a much younger gf, which I could have predicted.

He is a sad little low life who will end up very lonely and abandoned, his very worst nightmare.

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Chera Rizk's avatar

This is fire 🔥!

Now how about one for the enablers/flying monkeys of abuse too? ☺️

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Tania H's avatar

Dr Jessica Taylor just became more inspirational, I did not think that was possible. What a blessing she is.

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Wendy Martin's avatar

A letter I always dreamed of writing. Thank you, your words are so powerful.

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Jennifer Taylor's avatar

Dr. Jess: your words are a lifeline and your actions/advocacy give me hope. You are an inspiration. A Fierce Female. Keep shouting all this truth, Sister!

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Jess Nabb's avatar

Thank you for being in my corner. I am saving this to read whenever I start doubting myself / fall back into internalised victim blaming. This is medicine. Thank you 💚

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mark wilson's avatar

I would like you to take care,we can experience quite strange things in finding our own identity while experiencing other people,insecurity can expose you to models or types,of person which can remove you from true identification,your parents can lead you to believe that you deal with safe people and that that's who you know and who you are looking for,but if you are lacking in a volume of truth you can find yourself in deep water;lately I have come across finding that you accept descriptions of words that aren't entire descriptions because of the way you like to understand them,for instance,someone asked me about my connection to worship because I believe in God,I said I didn't know what worship meant,but I went through different meanings:"a form of idolatry","a gathering of people with a common belief",then my individual description:"an understanding that a being exists who you are dependent on because He knows more than you do";but insecurity can abbreviate how we describe,doubt can be linked to something we want,when the description becomes something we don't want,then the description stops,but wanting the description can result with blaming yourself,it can happen with the incompletion of a relationship.I hope you don't go through anything too bad,incomplete relationships are probably more common than you think,they can occur because people don't know how individual or family orientated they really are,I tried developing relationships from the age of 16,nothing happened and I am now 59,it has taken space from others,therapy and truth to understand that my greatest viability was when I was 16-18,professional and other matters have meant that I haven't been realistic since.There's no reason why we shouldn't choose to be alone,you can realise more about yourself if you do.Take care.

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Omz's avatar

I needed this today of all days. Your writing is a sane touchstone in a cruel world and I’m very grateful to you.

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Rachel's avatar

AboLove this!

I wish I could send this to my abusers!

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Sil (she/her)'s avatar

This is powerful. Thank you for reclaiming the word "victim". At the moment of the assault, we were victims. After the assault, we are highly likely to continue to be re-victimised by those around us who don't believe us, and judge us and blame us, as well as the systems that are supposed to protect/defend us.

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mark wilson's avatar

Thank you,Dr.Taylor,that was very good,I appreciated that very much,it is surprisingly accurate,I have experienced two people who have spoken about killing me,and they have both let on that they don't care which seems important to them;one person I have encountered said that not caring was important for doing what he would like to me,and he let on that they can filter things that they pick up through life in order to support a non-existence,the only thing that can be said to understand them is that it began in childhood,but you can be uncertain whether that means blameless as they would consider that as being a weak stance and foolish;other things you have written about point in a certain direction when it comes to the description of mental illness and criminality,I have experienced things which seemed strange,where you believe you are this person with these beliefs,then a description occurs which don't seem like that person,I haven't and wont engage in criminal behaviour other than having been convicted of cannabis possession,but because of what you write it does catch you and makes you think about what these descriptions would behave like if certain diagnostic bodies didn't exist in the societies we live in,but you think there must be a difference in paranoid behaviour which means that many people prefer to avoid others but some kill,I have made the distinction between lies and delusion myself in the past,but it gets quite difficult when you encounter the fact that this could be a removal from an entirely true account,but you don't know if courts encounter issues which truly deserve emotional understanding.

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Dmajik 1's avatar

Warrior woman empowering others!!! Thank you

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Coco Wilde's avatar

Very powerful. Thank you.

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