It is really interesting how similar the development or awakening is. I just wrote an article about why I cant be a therapist for men anymore. And I was thinking about by last client and his deeply traumatized wife who he even wanted to hurt worse. And I can imagine that all those sentences are working in her brain "dont be angry, everything has a reason, he had an exhausiting life, he doesnt want to be mean" and so on.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this topic. I really enjoyed reading it. For me, it has helped me think about how my behaviours, whilst well intended, may be contributing to harm.
Dear Dr Jessica Taylor, I admire your courage and bravery in defending Amber Laura Heard from the lynch mob mentality and from the mobs that were clearly possessed of misogynistic hatred, but I think you are wrong in blaming everything on men, from misogyny to patriarchy! It is just not common sense.
From what we've seen from that trial in America last year it is obvious that women are hardest on fellow women. Women can be misogynistic too!
Yes, definitely there are women who support patriarchy. Not all men are favored equally and not all women are equally oppressed. It's how the "top dogs" keep all us underlings divided.
I’d rather people didn’t know than pity me. Or think these comments are going to make me feel better, nothing is going to make me feel better/positive about abuse of adults or children. It’s a tragedy for all involved and needs to be respected as such. If I wanted their opinion on my situation I’d have disclosed everything to them and asked them for advice. Anyone with emotional intelligence would simply say I have no words but know I’m thinking of you. No words make abuse tolerable. You just have to learn to live with it and build barriers around yourself so no one can do it to you again. Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me. Thank you for sharing. Good people will respect your privacy and feelings.
Yes! This always bothered me in an elusive way that slipped into the subconscious rage realm with the rest of the bs women are expected to eat. Thanks for connecting the dots and bringing it out into the light. Why are we expected to glide right over or deny acknowledging that we’ve been made a victim and honoring all of the emotions that accompany this difficult and brave admission? Being a survivor is great but let’s first claim our right to the ( icky, unattractive for a commodified girl/woman) victim state and all that it may entail for each individual.
It is really interesting how similar the development or awakening is. I just wrote an article about why I cant be a therapist for men anymore. And I was thinking about by last client and his deeply traumatized wife who he even wanted to hurt worse. And I can imagine that all those sentences are working in her brain "dont be angry, everything has a reason, he had an exhausiting life, he doesnt want to be mean" and so on.
Thank you!!! And along comes the equally toxic virtuesignaling. Especially if it comes from women directed at other women.
Thank you for sharing your thoughts on this topic. I really enjoyed reading it. For me, it has helped me think about how my behaviours, whilst well intended, may be contributing to harm.
Thanks again,
Sarah
This is a brilliant article. Thank you. I needed to read this.
Thank you so much for this!
Dear Dr Jessica Taylor, I admire your courage and bravery in defending Amber Laura Heard from the lynch mob mentality and from the mobs that were clearly possessed of misogynistic hatred, but I think you are wrong in blaming everything on men, from misogyny to patriarchy! It is just not common sense.
From what we've seen from that trial in America last year it is obvious that women are hardest on fellow women. Women can be misogynistic too!
Yes, definitely there are women who support patriarchy. Not all men are favored equally and not all women are equally oppressed. It's how the "top dogs" keep all us underlings divided.
Toxic positivity is one of the most insidious evils that permeates society and needs to stop.
I’d rather people didn’t know than pity me. Or think these comments are going to make me feel better, nothing is going to make me feel better/positive about abuse of adults or children. It’s a tragedy for all involved and needs to be respected as such. If I wanted their opinion on my situation I’d have disclosed everything to them and asked them for advice. Anyone with emotional intelligence would simply say I have no words but know I’m thinking of you. No words make abuse tolerable. You just have to learn to live with it and build barriers around yourself so no one can do it to you again. Fool me once shame on you, fool me twice shame on me. Thank you for sharing. Good people will respect your privacy and feelings.
Yes! This always bothered me in an elusive way that slipped into the subconscious rage realm with the rest of the bs women are expected to eat. Thanks for connecting the dots and bringing it out into the light. Why are we expected to glide right over or deny acknowledging that we’ve been made a victim and honoring all of the emotions that accompany this difficult and brave admission? Being a survivor is great but let’s first claim our right to the ( icky, unattractive for a commodified girl/woman) victim state and all that it may entail for each individual.