Since Sigi Freud, every psychiatrist "knows for sure" that ALL women just make everything up. So besides being hysterical they also lie and are paranoid. That's why women are in trouble when they get stalked, abused, raped or maybe even killed. Surely she made it all up. Lets diagnose her.... Sadly nothing has really changed since Mr. Freud.
Thank you for writing a detailed account of what we, victims, go through during our stalking experience. The gaslighting by medical professionals is treachery for me. Not only do I have someone driving by my home, I have no way to tell the world because of the online stalking and texting friends and family was pointless because I was labeled mentally ill. Well I should say, sleeping under a bed with a knife at night, turning out all lights at dusk for months on end makes one go a little stir crazy. We are being HUNTED, taunted until either the stalker finds someone else or law enforcement steps in. And after 22 months of this cat and mouse behavior, we are then supposed to be normal and reacclimate to societal standards, confined without online support. This is insanity. My stalker was arrested 3 times in 18 months, unfortunately the woman who brought up charges (and the police department fortunately charged him with aggravated domestic assault after learning of my stalking situation) died shortly before his trial so he was released. He was a neighbor I walked my dogs with, in a city I lived in 4 years ago. Stalkers TARGET people, exactly as you stated in your article, who already have insecurities, like divorcing and newly found singlehood. The problem is with HOW are laws are enforced, the extent they can be enforced. The ability to have proof to keep innocent people out of jail is necessary, however when the truth is provided, I firmly believe stalkers should have a sentence immediately imposed with mandatory 24 month therapy whilst incarcerated due to the high reference rate, bypassing the percentage of stalkers that are not incarcerated and violently attack their victims. Thank you for spreading awareness.
It's not at all easy though, Dr.Taylor, I and most other people can agree with what you say, but different people deal with different rules and volumes. A victim, whether they are falsely accused perpetrator or victim, will find it hard to deliver a complete body of true evidence because of what I understand to be trauma, which is a removal from a persons identity; a perpetrator will tend to want to get away with their crime, with that mixture a jury has to conclude with beyond reasonable doubt, lawyers have to adopt a certain independent stance as well. So unless you can put together a case and statement where the description of the crime is clearly defined it is actually more difficult than getting what any right minded citizen would wish for. I felt persecuted for years and considered suicide because of a situation that indicated I may be a paedophile, and I had a vendetta set against me, while I went for Psychotherapy because I thought my perception was going very wrong, afterwards I worked out that my mother knew what was going on in the vendetta, she lied about this and said to me that nothing was going on and it was all inside my head, I lived with her at that time. The family involved was scapegoating me for two of their childrens problems, I barely knew one of these, I was using the back entrance in the house I lived in because of the trauma I thought I had caused in the families 14 year old daughter, the police had been involved, I hadn't been interviewed, the father decided I should move because of their daughter, this was while they were in the process of moving themselves, which they did before I did. The family were involved with worsening my mental condition before the incident, but not the two youngest children whose problems I had been blamed for, the girl had been adopted(the 14 year old), she didn't think she had been treated the same as the other two children, she was the middle daughter, in case there were things the parents didn't understand(supposition), they encouraged her to develop as an individual with a strong black identity. If you can, you can try and pick that apart, I went for Psychotherapy which I thought was taking care of my responsibility; I carried around the accusation of being a paedophile for a long time, one of the reasons being that apart from what society tells you, I didn't know what the word meant, because if you believe you are going to court, difficulties are placed in your way if you are a virgin, which I still am, and you experience identification problems in a society which expects you to behave as what it considers to be a sexually mature adult, if as females they find you attractive. I think your belief in pathologisation being removed is something I support, I think it adds up with moves towards equality, but truth is still adding up for me, I don't know if not understanding something is a stance to take, I don't think lawyers can do that; but my experience has resulted in a belief that delusions are a true description, part of what happened with the 14 year old was a feeling and a voice inside my mind which spoke of being punished for things I hadn't done, I associated punishment with the girls father, but it was linked to being left in the care of an aunty after the age of one year because my mother had to work and the aunty preferred favouring her own son above me. I have also been misdiagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia, which I know to be truly misdiagnosed, even though a voice which wasn't mine spoke of "being punished for things I haven't done" inside my mind. Removing pathologisation seems to make life look calmer and more peaceful, it can look very difficult to unravel though.
Since Sigi Freud, every psychiatrist "knows for sure" that ALL women just make everything up. So besides being hysterical they also lie and are paranoid. That's why women are in trouble when they get stalked, abused, raped or maybe even killed. Surely she made it all up. Lets diagnose her.... Sadly nothing has really changed since Mr. Freud.
Devastating
Thank you for writing a detailed account of what we, victims, go through during our stalking experience. The gaslighting by medical professionals is treachery for me. Not only do I have someone driving by my home, I have no way to tell the world because of the online stalking and texting friends and family was pointless because I was labeled mentally ill. Well I should say, sleeping under a bed with a knife at night, turning out all lights at dusk for months on end makes one go a little stir crazy. We are being HUNTED, taunted until either the stalker finds someone else or law enforcement steps in. And after 22 months of this cat and mouse behavior, we are then supposed to be normal and reacclimate to societal standards, confined without online support. This is insanity. My stalker was arrested 3 times in 18 months, unfortunately the woman who brought up charges (and the police department fortunately charged him with aggravated domestic assault after learning of my stalking situation) died shortly before his trial so he was released. He was a neighbor I walked my dogs with, in a city I lived in 4 years ago. Stalkers TARGET people, exactly as you stated in your article, who already have insecurities, like divorcing and newly found singlehood. The problem is with HOW are laws are enforced, the extent they can be enforced. The ability to have proof to keep innocent people out of jail is necessary, however when the truth is provided, I firmly believe stalkers should have a sentence immediately imposed with mandatory 24 month therapy whilst incarcerated due to the high reference rate, bypassing the percentage of stalkers that are not incarcerated and violently attack their victims. Thank you for spreading awareness.
Someday, I'll send you my story. Thank you for speaking.
It's not at all easy though, Dr.Taylor, I and most other people can agree with what you say, but different people deal with different rules and volumes. A victim, whether they are falsely accused perpetrator or victim, will find it hard to deliver a complete body of true evidence because of what I understand to be trauma, which is a removal from a persons identity; a perpetrator will tend to want to get away with their crime, with that mixture a jury has to conclude with beyond reasonable doubt, lawyers have to adopt a certain independent stance as well. So unless you can put together a case and statement where the description of the crime is clearly defined it is actually more difficult than getting what any right minded citizen would wish for. I felt persecuted for years and considered suicide because of a situation that indicated I may be a paedophile, and I had a vendetta set against me, while I went for Psychotherapy because I thought my perception was going very wrong, afterwards I worked out that my mother knew what was going on in the vendetta, she lied about this and said to me that nothing was going on and it was all inside my head, I lived with her at that time. The family involved was scapegoating me for two of their childrens problems, I barely knew one of these, I was using the back entrance in the house I lived in because of the trauma I thought I had caused in the families 14 year old daughter, the police had been involved, I hadn't been interviewed, the father decided I should move because of their daughter, this was while they were in the process of moving themselves, which they did before I did. The family were involved with worsening my mental condition before the incident, but not the two youngest children whose problems I had been blamed for, the girl had been adopted(the 14 year old), she didn't think she had been treated the same as the other two children, she was the middle daughter, in case there were things the parents didn't understand(supposition), they encouraged her to develop as an individual with a strong black identity. If you can, you can try and pick that apart, I went for Psychotherapy which I thought was taking care of my responsibility; I carried around the accusation of being a paedophile for a long time, one of the reasons being that apart from what society tells you, I didn't know what the word meant, because if you believe you are going to court, difficulties are placed in your way if you are a virgin, which I still am, and you experience identification problems in a society which expects you to behave as what it considers to be a sexually mature adult, if as females they find you attractive. I think your belief in pathologisation being removed is something I support, I think it adds up with moves towards equality, but truth is still adding up for me, I don't know if not understanding something is a stance to take, I don't think lawyers can do that; but my experience has resulted in a belief that delusions are a true description, part of what happened with the 14 year old was a feeling and a voice inside my mind which spoke of being punished for things I hadn't done, I associated punishment with the girls father, but it was linked to being left in the care of an aunty after the age of one year because my mother had to work and the aunty preferred favouring her own son above me. I have also been misdiagnosed with paranoid schizophrenia, which I know to be truly misdiagnosed, even though a voice which wasn't mine spoke of "being punished for things I haven't done" inside my mind. Removing pathologisation seems to make life look calmer and more peaceful, it can look very difficult to unravel though.
Thank you. I read this excellent and informative article with "perpetrator?" ringing through my mind with every passing sentence.
Lend me that wall.